PART 3: PROMISCUITY APPROACHES FOR WOMEN
The church and many Christians often approach failing at God’s instructions and commands in ways that are unhealthy, at best, and severely damaging, at worst. Let’s consider some important factors that can have strong effects on women that may lead them more readily into sexual immorality.
Unless a young woman is protected sexually through childhood and is consistently trained according to her strong identity in Christ, she will not know how precious and powerful she is.
Unless she is taught discernment and discretion in her behavior, and the essential truth about how she is made and why she needs protection, she will be compromised by tempting, worldly influence sooner than later.
For those who were molested or exposed to pornography as children, they will likely see themselves as an object for a man’s pleasure and completely miss their irreplaceable value.
If they do not witness a healthy relationship between mother and father where their father cherishes their mother, they will likely not recognize that they are worthy of being cherished.
A mother’s example of chaste behavior and instilling worth into her daughter, and a father’s role as protector and unconditional love cannot be overestimated in forming a young woman’s value system. The opposite is equally true.
For women, the HEART issue can be that sex (especially immoral sex) is a way of dealing with feeling unloved as a child, by her father, or as a human.
It can be the same for men. The way we attached (or did not attach) to our mother (or main caregiver) directly affects how we relate to people of the opposite sex, including our marital partners
We usually address the behavior and not the heart. Women were created for intimacy, to be unconditionally loved by Christ and to be loved by a man. When she is not married, God is her husband. There are three views to take in addressing promiscuity in women. The first two are unkind and unloving.
NEGLECT View – Leaving her to figure things out on her own the hard way. “Be true to yourself” “Follow your heart” which are both highly unbiblical and destructive.
LEGISLATION View – Demanding obedience from the outside in. “Change your behavior, that’s all that matters!”
GRACE View – This is a humble approach that acknowledges many have fallen. “Let’s find out why and heal those parts.” Restoration depends on understanding the importance of this view.
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